Relationships

One of the important characteristics of a Jesuit education is the magis, from the Latin word for the ‘more’ or the ‘greater.’ As James Martin, S.J. says in The Jesuit Guide to (Almost) Everything: A Spirituality for Real Life,  “When you work, give your all…” The resources below give you more so you can live the Jesuit magis towards a fully thriving GU experience in wellness and in health.

Whether you're seeking resources for yourself or for a friend, remember that part of being in community, especially at a Jesuit institution, is the call for us to engage in conversations and dialogues around these topics.  We hope you will use this Wellness Toolbox as a way to learn more about concerns Zags often face in order to reduce stigma and create open dialogue around those challenges.

To seek magis by learning more about Relationships, see the resources below:

M – Meaning and Description

Learn more about Relationships, including signs of healthy and unhealthy relationships

A - Apps and Downloads

Apps and downloads that can help you improve Relationships

G - Great Resources

Articles, handouts, worksheets and other resources to help with Relationships. Also includes information on support groups and hotlines.

I - Interactive Media

Video, audio, and podcasts with tips on Relationships

S - Supporting a Friend

Information and resources for how to help a friend who is struggling with a Relationship


M – Meaning and Description

Building and maintaining relationships is one of the best parts of the college experience.  It can also be one of the most challenging.  The key to relationships is understanding what makes a healthy relationship and recognizing warning signs that a relationship may have become unhealthy.  The resources below can help you do just that.

From Campbell University

From the National Domestic Violence Hotline and Break the Cycle

From the University of Washington

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A – Apps and Downloads

This is just a sampling of apps available to support you in developing your Relationships.  On-campus and off-campus resources are also available to help support you with any concerns you may have in this area.

Give Appreciation - Giving and receiving appreciation is a great way to build friendship and closeness. Expressing thanks – even for small things – is powerful stuff! Try these out on your partner or friends and watch for impressive results. 

Free on Android and iTunes 

Expressing Needs - One of the myths about love relationships is that we should instinctively know what our partner needs. But nobody is a mind reader, no matter how much they love us. Once you know what your own needs are, stating them in a positive way with the help of this app gives your partner a chance to shine for you!

Free on Android and iTunes

I Feel - It’s not always easy to tell your partner how you are feeling. Sometimes we just don’t have the words! This app is loaded with 234 emotional states to help you identify feelings and build connection with your partner when you don’t know what to say.

Free on Android and iTunes

Homeslice - A household management solution that allows roommates to efficiently manage their shared bills, supplies, and tasks in one place!

Free on Android

Splitwise - This app allows you to keep track of bills, split amongst roommates or friends, see when bills are due.  You can view your balances, track spending trends, set up email reminders and more.

Free on Android and iTunes

Chorma for Chores - An easy and fun way to organize chores with your roommates and keep your household on track!

Free on iTunes

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G - Great Resources

Building Friendships - Building and maintaining friendships isn't always easy.  It's ok if you find yourself struggling with this.  We've got tips to help you meet new people and build relationships.

Roommate Relationships - If you've got a roommate, this resource is for you!  Get tips for building strong, respectful roommate relationships.

10 Keys to Fair Fighting - From time to time, all relationships may encounter bumps in the road that lead to a disagreement.  Learn how to fight fair and find solutions.

Relationship Tips - Five quick tips for developing and maintaining healthy relationships.

Coping When Your Partner Leaves - Are you experiencing a break-up?  This resource has suggestions for coping when your partner leaves you.

Coping with Breakups - Break-ups are hard. Whether it's a friend or a significant other, review some tips for navigating this difficult time. 

Decisions About Sex - Your decision to enter into a sexual relationship with another person can be extremely exciting, difficult, scary, or intense. Like any big, important decision, it is one that requires that you gather and consider a good deal of information beforehand so that is an educated decision. There are many aspects of sexual intimacy to consider.

Bullying - On occasions, our relationships with other are not healthy or safe.  If you are being bullied or see another Zag who is being bullied, you can learn more about this and get some tips on how to stop it.

Building Healthy Relationships - Building healthy relationships takes place from the start of the relationship.  This resource has tips for getting off on the right foot.

Hotlines That Help - There are a number of local and national crisis hotlines that can help you 24 hours a day.  Learn more in this resource with specific hotlines numbers (including texting options).

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I – Interactive Media (videos, audio, podcasts)

Every Person Has Infinite Worth - From Dr. Kent Hoffman, Gonzaga Faculty:  each of us carries within the gift of infinite worth. Find out what that means for us to walk in relationship with others with a new sense of interconnectedness.

How to Create Healthy Boundaries - In this quick video, learn about what boundaries are AND how to create them to improve your life and your relationships.

Good Boundaries Free You - This Ted Talk explores the impact of those things you say "yes" to and the things you say "no" to.  Boundaries can shape your life and relationships in many ways.

What is a Healthy Relationship? - Understand the elements that create a healthy, interdependent relationship versus an unhealthy, codependent relationship.

Toxic Relationships - How to tell if you're in a toxic relationship and tips for fixing or, if needed, ending that relationship.

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S – Supporting a Friend

Tips on How to Help a Friend - When we’re having a hard time, the first place most of us turn is to family and friends.  If you have friends who have come to you for help, we've got tips to help you with those conversations.

What Do I Say? - Having difficult conversations with friends is never easy.  This is a quick resource to help you find the right words.

Refer Form - This is one way you can share that you are concerned about a student. Someone from the Center for Cura Personalis, or their designee, will reach out to provide the student with support and resources.

Campus Resources List - There are so many resources available on campus to support Gonzaga students.  The campus resources we have available can support you at each phase in their journey.  This page includes list of commonly used resources, including contact information and a little information about what each office does.

Campus Resources Matrix - If you still aren't sure which office might be the best place to go, take a look at our which identifies offices that can help with specific questions or concerns.

What is CCP? - This video shares more about the Center for Cura Personalis, which serves students in many ways including through proactive outreach and educational programs about healthy choices and interventions for students who may be struggling. 

What is Health & Counseling? - Health & Counseling Services functions as your private physician's office and counseling center. Learn more about the services available through this office.

What To Expect - This video gives an overview of what to expect when scheduling and coming in for your first visit at the Center for Cura Personalis or Health & Counseling Services.

Community Resources - In addition to the great resources available on campus, there are a number of resources available in the Spokane community to assist you with your personal well-being while you are at Gonzaga.

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