Relationships

Building and maintaining relationships is one of the best parts of the college experience, and can also be one of the most challenging. Relationships also include creating healthy ones with yourself. The key to relationships is understanding what makes a healthy relationship and recognizing warning signs that a relationship may have become unhealthy.  The resources below can help you do just that. 

RESOURCES 

10 Signs of Healthy Relationships - Healthy relationships bring out the best in you and make you feel good about yourself. A healthy relationship does not mean a “perfect” relationship, and no one is healthy 100% of the time, but these signs are behaviors you should strive for in all of your relationships.  

10 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationships - While everyone does unhealthy things sometimes, we can all learn to love better by recognizing unhealthy signs and shifting to healthy behaviors. If you are seeing unhealthy signs in your relationship, it’s important not to ignore them and understand they can escalate to abuse. 

Brene Brown on True Belonging - Everyone questions if they belong in the community they find themselves in. Belonging is a big part of relationships of all kinds, but most importantly within yourself. Read Brene Brown’s article to reflect on who your true self is to share with the world around you.  

Because I Love You - Such a simple phrase can take on a different meaning in an unhealthy relationship, escalating from a statement of care to one of control. 

Every Person Has Infinite Worth - From Dr. Kent Hoffman, Gonzaga Faculty:  each of us carries within the gift of infinite worth. Find out what that means for us to walk in relationship with others with a new sense of interconnectedness.  

"Frientimacy: 3 Requirements to Fulfilling Relationships" -  Our world is getting "better" at connecting us and yet we're reporting feeling more disconnected than ever. The issue: loneliness. The solution: understanding the 3 actions that lead to belonging. Shasta Nelson is passionate about all things friendship. As founder and CEO of GirlFriendCircles.com— the female-friendship learning community—she speaks and writes regularly on this important topic. 

Good Boundaries Free You - This Ted Talk explores the impact of those things you say "yes" to and the things you say "no" to.  Boundaries can shape your life and relationships in many ways.  

Hotlines That Help - There are several local and national crisis hotlines that can help you 24 hours a day.  Learn more in this resource with specific hotlines numbers (including texting options).  

How to Create Healthy Boundaries - In this quick video, learn about what boundaries are AND how to create them to improve your life and your relationships.  

Love Intently – You can listen to the Love Intently podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Google Podcasts or read their blog to discover your attachment style, your love personality, and speak with experts in the field about empowering yourself to have thriving relationships.  

Social Wellness Toolkit – The National Institutes for Health (NIH) provides evidence-based tips for living well and improving your health. The social wellness toolkit provides tips on how to take care of yourself and strengthen social health. 

Toxic Relationships - How to tell if you're in a toxic relationship and tips for fixing it, or if needed, ending that relationship. 

APPS 

This is just a sampling of apps available to support you in developing your Relationships.  On-campus and off-campus resources are also available to help support you with any concerns you may have in this area. 

Emi Relationship Reminder - Get quick relationship reminders via push notifications to build healthy relationship habits. Emi provides the research and scientific context behind each exercise to learn more about the skills needed in healthy relationships. Free on iOS. 

Gottman’s Card Decks - Curious what questions to ask to strengthen our relationship? Gotham’s Card Decks can help by offering questions and statements to discuss with your partner. Free on Apple and Android. 

Splitwise - This app allows you to keep track of bills, split amongst roommates or friends, and see when bills are due.  You can view your balances, track spending trends, set up email reminders and more. Free on Apple and Andriod. 

Tody - Manage cleaning tasks with roommates and assign tasks to make your home and relationships tidy and clean! Free on Apple and Android.