In Healthy Relationships...

• partners do not lose themselves in the feel free to spend time apart from the relationship.
• each partner can share their feelings and needs without criticism.
• each partner is equally committed.
• each partner is accepted by the other and each has a good measure of self acceptance.
• partners share basic values and goals.
• each individual in free to spend time with others apart from the relationship without experiencing extreme jealousy from their partner.
• both are willing to compromise yet keep personal standards.
• there is equality.
• decisions are shared.
• over all, the relationship is enjoyed and valued.
• individuals are generally happy and have fun together. 
  

In a healthy relationship, you and your partner are unique and equal and have the same amount of power and control. In an unhealthy relationship, however, not everything is equal and your partner tries to have control over you. He or she tries to make you feel less unique and unimportant. The following is a list of signs of an unhealthy relationship.

• threats and/or violent behavior is used.
• isolation from friends, family, and activities is common.
• guilt is used to manipulate.
• one person makes all the decisions.
• put-downers or dirty looks are used to intimidate.
• humiliation is common, especially in front of others.
• partner(s) play mind games and deny abusive behavior.
• partner(s) use jealousy to justify actions.
• partner(s) use pressure or forces sexual activity.
• partner(s) always want to be together.