How Healthy is Your Relationship?*

13 quick questions to help you rate your special someone

(using a notepad, jot down the number of the A's and B's)

1.     Does this person accept that you have other friends?                                      

        (A. Yes, B. No)    

2.     Does this person ask for your opinion about issues that affect you?                

        (A. Yes, B. No)

3.     Does this person have good relationships with his or her family and friends?  

        (A. Yes, B. No)

4.     Does this person talk AND listen to you?                                                           

        (A.  Yes, B. No)                                                        

5.     Would you consider this person a friend?                                                            

        (A. Yes, B. No)

6.      Do you "act like yourself" when you are with this person?                                 

        (A. Yes, B. No)

7.     Does this person have other interests besides you?                                          

        (A. Yes, B. No)

8.     Does this person expect you to say where you have been when you've been apart?                                                                                                                     

        (A. No, B. Yes)

9.     Does this person lose his or her temper easily?                                                 

        (A. No, B. Yes)

10.   Does this person get angry or hurt and/or claim that you don't pay attention to him or her?                                                                                                             

        (A. No, B. Yes)

11.   Have you ever seen this person throw, hit or break things when angry?             

        (A. No, B. Yes)

12.   Is this person jealous of the time you spend with your friends and relatives?   

        (A. No, B. Yes)

13.   Does this person seem to have control issues?                                                               

        (A. No, B. Yes)

Count and total each "A" and "B."  Use the key below to gauge how healthy your relationship is.

13-11 A's = you seem to have a healthy relationship, 10-8 A's = your relationship is showing moderate signs of abusiveness, 7-5 A's = please seek help, you are very likely in an abusive or potentially abusive relationship.

* Quiz generated by the Spokane County Domestic Violence Consortium, 2003

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